A Guide to Autism & Incontinence In Older Children

Incontinence is common among children with autism, and while some may learn to potty train, other children may never use the toilet.

Use this article to understand why incontinence continues in older children with autism and read the personal story of Nicole Gottesmann, mother of an 11-and-a-half-year-old with autism named Gabe, and how they manage incontinence. Plus, get tips from our pediatric Medical Advisor on how to help your child manage their symptoms.

Understanding Incontinence

Incontinence is the loss of bladder (urinary incontinence [UI]) or bowel control (fecal incontinence). Incontinence can occur for a multitude of reasons and it can affect people of all ages.

There are a few different types of incontinence people can experience, including stress incontinence, urge incontinence, and mixed incontinence.

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It’s unclear exactly how many older children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) also have incontinence. However, in the clinical setting, bladder and bowel dysfunction and delay in both urinary and fecal incontinence is quite common in children with ASD.

In a small study of 13 teenagers with ASD, 85% experienced incontinence. In another study, incontinence was more common (25% v 4.7%) in the children with ASD compared to control children without ASD. This trend was also observed for nocturnal enuresis and for a delay in daytime bladder control and bowel control. Other studies have demonstrated that UI occurred in 37% of children with autism.

These types of incontinence can be intermittent, short term, or long-term.

Children with ASD may experience:

The cause of incontinence in children with autism is due to many factors, including:

  • Sensory issues that deter children from using the bathroom or toilet.
  • Certain medications that cause bladder spasms and urinary issues.
  • Developmental disorders or learning delays which can lead to slower toilet training.
  • Gastrointestinal problems that can cause constipation and urinary urgency (feeling the sudden and intense urge to urinate).
  • Attention deficit hyperactivity disorders (ADHD) related to ASD or bodily awareness issues which can cause children to ignore bodily signals of needing to empty their bladder or bowels.
  • Anxiety issues that can deter children from toileting.

Many children with autism learn to use the toilet at a slower rate than children without ASD. But, some children with autism may never complete potty training due to the previously mentioned causes of incontinence. A child’s level of continence (control of bladder and bowels) depends on their unique condition and symptoms.

The Gottesmann's Story

When our 11 and a half- year-old son, Gabe, was diagnosed with autism at the age of 2, I had no idea what to expect his future to look like. Would he ever talk? Learn to communicate in other ways? Would he ever become independent?

I'll be honest, one of my biggest concerns was potty training. It was a long time before Gabe was out of diapers. Managing his urinary incontience involved intensive ABA (applied behavioral analysis) therapy and continued into his early school years. I had to provide the school with diapers and wipes for years until he was able to stay dry during the day.

At the time, I was a single mother, and if that wasn’t enough to be overwhelmed by, I had very little income. The amount of time and money I could have saved by utilizing Aeroflow Urology's products and services is immense. Luckily, I did learn about Aeroflow Urology and their services recently, and it has already been life changing. Even after Gabe no longer needed diapers, he continued to have a need for nighttime pull-ups up until very recently.

The reality is, many people with autism have difficulty with transitions, as well as identifying what their bodies are telling them. I believe that much of the time Gabe cannot feel when he needs to urinate. We are on a strict schedule, but occasionally he will have an accident. This is just part of what autism looks like for him.

We are currently in a transitional stage with Gabe now that he is becoming a tween. He previously slept in a portable, special needs safety bed that prevented him from getting hurt at night due to his difficulty sleeping. He additionally has to take medication to help him sleep. Both of these factors contributed to the need for nighttime pull-ups. 

As of just a few weeks ago, Gabe made it known that he was ready to stop sleeping in his safety bed, and indicated that he is ready for a regular bed. We got rid of his safety bed that kept him safe and secure for years. It has taken some time, but now he is used to his new bed and sense of freedom. He is able to fall asleep and stay asleep! We are now trying something new. We have been trying to have him sleep without a pull-up!

Aeroflow Urology provided us with high quality pull-ups that we have less of a need for right now. We are now using their bed pads as well as wipes and gloves.

Gabe Gottesmann

It's a great feeling to know that we have the necessary items to ensure that his new mattress is protected. I cannot believe how easy the process is to get these high-quality products at no cost through our Medicaid plan. I went to their website and filled out a form in under one minute. They did the rest! 

I am so grateful to have found out about Aeroflow Urology and know that whatever the future holds, they will be able to provide us with whatever we may need on Gabe's journey. 

Helping Your Older Child With Incontinence

Use tips from our expert Medical Advisor to help your older child manage their incontinence.

1. Communicate Openly

Keep open communication with your child about incontinence—regardless of their age. It’s imperative that your loved one feels safe talking to you about their incontinence symptoms and that they’re transparent. This is the best way to help your child manage incontinence.

2. Stay Positive

You must stay positive, supportive, and open-minded with your child when broaching and discussing the subject of incontinence. It’s important for your child to hear that they are not alone and the incontinence is not their fault. 

3. Address Any Bullying (If Your Child Is Experiencing It)

If your child is being bullied at school about their incontinence, it should be addressed with administration or supervising authorities. If your child is being bullied outside of school, this should be addressed with the bully and their guardian(s). It is important the bully understands incontinence is not purposeful and is a medical condition with which your child is struggling. Tolerance should be taught to the bully. 

If you can, encourage your child to ignore the bully and their taunts. Again, parents should be very clear with their children–if they can comprehend–that the incontinence is not their fault, that they are not in trouble, and that they are not alone in dealing with such.

4. Use Incontinence Products

Any potty watches, youth pull-ups, or youth diapers that encourage independence, convenience, and confidence are a great option to manage leaks. You can try the WobL Watch that can be set to vibrate to be more discreet if your child attends school or visits with friends.

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Dr. Samantha Eaker

Samantha Eaker, DNP, CPNP-PC is a board-certified pediatric nurse practitioner specializing in pediatric urology. She is a Medical Advisor and Author for Aeroflow Urology. Dr. Eaker received her Bachelor of Science in Nursing from Georgetown University and her Doctor of Nursing Practice from The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She currently practices in North Carolina, serving children and adults with congenital and acquired urologic problems. She is passionate about providing personalized care to and advocating for her patients. Primary care trained, Dr. Eaker enjoys the continuity of care that pediatric urology provides. When not in the clinic, she is most likely to be found traveling with her husband, playing with their Great Dane, or staying active on the Peloton and throughout local state parks.


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Information provided on the Aeroflow Urology website is not intended as a substitute to medical advice or care from a healthcare professional. Aeroflow recommends consulting your healthcare provider if you are experiencing medical issues relating to incontinence.